I wish you a storm

"In the kingdom of the gods, one must be very careful. There are things we cannot do, words we cannot say." These are some, that for different reasons, will never reach their intended destinations in that kingdom.
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You think you know it all. Just as I do. But here is the difference between you and I- I know that everything I stand for and believe in might be wrong. And I hope at least some of it is. But I know this also, and try, most times, to live by this. That commitment and kindness mean more than romantic ideals. That honesty counts for more than chickening out. That sticking through the tough times is worth it.

Because this much I know is true. Life is short and people disappear like summer winds. One minute they are here, talking to you on the phone about wedding dresses and how they suspected that guy you’re about to marry was your boyfriend all along, and the next minute they are gone. Before you can pick up the phone and call ‘when they are better and out of the hospital’. Before their son has a chance to start on his first job or bring a bride home. Before they can even get home from their first family vacation in ten years, they are gone in a crashing disaster of brain and heart and organ failure.

Because life slips away like this: Raw flesh tortured apart by the force of its own life-blood. A little clot that stops your brain that breaks your heart that brings your kidneys to a grinding halt. Because life slips away like this: Not in your sentimental tears and tortured emotions.

This much I know for sure. That blood surges and clots and the color of your bleeding romance will stop you in your tracks forever. This is the nature of blood and of life and of death. And this I can assure you will one day happen to both you and I, regardless of what we stand for today. So spare me your mawkish romance and your bloodshot eyes, your weeping heart and your fragile pretentions of emotion.

In this my parents, my husband and others more patient than I tell me to be kind and move on. Life is short, they remind me, and gone like a cloud in a summer storm. Love the uncle who said, the last time he called, “I’m waiting to see you at _’s wedding.” Remember the affection and hold the memory of shelter and warmth. Life is too short for unkindness, they say.

But on days like this I resonate only with one of my favorite cinematic moments. A scene from American Beauty, of a plastic bag caught in the wind. My words billow with rage and patience is ripped apart by my uncle’s passing.

I have neither time nor space to give you, ex-girlfriend of someone dear. Instead I give you my questions: Why say you were faking your emotions all this while? What sort of a woman are you, so keen on a wedding that you have forgotten what it takes to make a marriage? Why this gut-less playing of mind-games that only hurts the one I love? And what sort of family is this you come from, that thinks nothing of making outlandish demands of others’ children, but have failed to make their daughter become a decent human being?

At the end of it all, I only want for this to turn back on you, all the anger and confusion and unhappiness you have caused.

I wish you every unshed tear and all the grief you have caused. Because I hope they cut you deep enough to open your heart to this ephemeral space, where fragile things like people and love must stay so strong, when all we have is each other to hold through all the storms.