Grass

It is everywhere, underfoot in everyone's life. Nowhere of consequence, and still everywhere. In the end, everything returns to the earth and turns to grass. And it is nothing, of no importance, really. Even at the end, who thinks of grass as their next destination?

When I am sad, I turn to the grass. It is everywhere, and I can turn to it through crowded streets and rainy windows. Unnoticed, I slip into it, anywhere and everywhere. Like grass, I can be nowhere and nobody, anywhere. Un-peopled, a grassy world is a happy place. It is people that make me unhappy.

Being judgemental

When asked for an opinion, you wrap it up in words like these- Might be, perhaps, "to them it's the right thing, and who am I to judge?"

Perhaps you are right, and I might be wrong, in forming opinions in complete sentences. To them it may be the right thing to do, but I am asking about you. Who aren't you, that you would deny yourself the right to an opinion, a thought, conviction in your own beliefs? In this limited space-time, why not frame your personality in words that express your self with conviction, your views punctuated clearly in the light of your own reasoning?

It is a contradiction to think that one of my firmest beliefs is in being individualistic- to 'let' others do what they want without forcing them to change, give people the space and time they need for self-realization. But I have this need to evaluate, weigh the actions of one against the other and in the difference frame another facet of my understanding. After the balancing, they may step off my mental scales and go back to being themselves, but I seem unable to let go off this process. You, on the other hand, have no problems with never considering, never balancing and accepting unconditionally. They are what they are, and I am what I am. Why must we weigh and measure that as greater or this as lesser?

I find myself in the tilt of those scales, in the balancing act that helps me decide how to live my life as myself. And I ask you now- where do you find yourself, in this unconditional sea of unthinking acceptance? How, in the million ways of living a life and being happy, do you decide which one you want?

Strength training

There has always been this refrain, in the background.
Lose ten pounds.
Pretty. Dark. Big. Graceful.
Lose ten pounds.
Wide hips. Bad skin. Great hair. Big feet.
Lose ten pounds.

Through years and phases, swinging through all my memory of childhood and beyond, are these words. Physical descriptors, half-pleasant, half-unpleasant. The day I overheard my PT instructor pass a comment about my giant hips, and the same evening that the ladies in the temple gushed over me, asking if I was the dancer scheduled for the evening's performance. The day I was supposed to be sleeping, when a despairing maiden aunt asked my mother- "She's so dark and fat, make sure she loses weight or you will never find a groom." I was twelve. Being told, through acne and awards, top marks and good writing and terrible physics, to lose ten pounds to look good. As if they were all that stood between me and confidence, success and true love.

Confused, I chose to lose the body, in dreams that left me single, and preferably invisible. And when the refrain changed, it only confused me more. Suddenly, it is acceptable to be unhealthily obese and still consider oneself lovely. There are opinions and clothes and people and places that have expanded to fit these sizes, and I am still confused, unsure whether to stand when they call for the petites or the large-framed women, the tall or the average or the perfectly-toned. I am lost in many descriptors- It is only one body, and I don't know where to place it.

I see-saw in self images, the woman's compliments struggling to outweigh the child's hurt, all over an image and size that has remained largely unchanged. I've asked, over and over- Am I beautiful? And never believed the answer yes, because beauty itself was so hard to define, it seemed. Of late, this is my answer- Lift the weight, don't obsess over losing it. Don't avoid the comments, just outrun them.

And I forget them all, in the hardest, most comforting way I have found. Beauty is in strength, in knowing my possibilities and reaching past my toes, and resilience is in beauty, expanding my limits as my arm arches overhead, weights in hand. And beauty and strength come together in the most perfect way possible when I run, in the feel of road and wind and sun.

And to all those words that I questioned myself with, I have an answer that pleases both the child and the woman within.

"Oh you're so pretty!"
Perhaps, but I can run 20 miles.

"You'll never get those jeans past those hips."
Perhaps, but I can still run 20 miles.

In strength and health, in the light of my clear, fatigued mind after a run, my body becomes visible to me, slowly. Just as it is, and it fits me perfectly, regardless of the perceptions its sometimes squeezed into.

Middle ground-1

Once upon a time, in sunset hues in a distant land, my father held Lehninger's Biochemistry on his lap and explained glycolysis and enantiomers, the cycles within cycles of breathing and respiration. In that same golden light, my mother's voice beckoned, the rhythm of Tennyson's Brook exacted to scientific precision, each word clear as the molten glass alchemists shaped once.

Now words flounder and stand bunched up in the spotlight, refugees fleeing clarity and fearing shadow. At work, I must write to simplify. The rhythms of oxidative phosphorylation and voltage-gated ion channels must be broken down, glued together with what's popular and catchy to appeal to the masses.'Science' must not be speculative. 'Interesting' is sacrificed and turned into the accurate, as if the two must necessarily be mutually exclusive.

To my eye, sunlight bouncing off chlorophyll and phytopigments is still poetry, still worth lyrics set to metered rhyme as precise as the electrons dancing. Poetry must not be scientific or lucid, poetry may only be in abstract terms that complicate the most basic human emotions. Are emotions less meaningful because they have scientific explanations, or beauty lost because there is an explanation to it?

I teeter on the scales, searching for the middle ground where both sides of my childhood can still exist in that same equal, golden light.