Some days I feel like this- A brightly colored piece of thin paper, twisted and bent to a a shape sent whirling on a child's puff, ripped to shreds by a strong wind. Some days are like this, when all my form is weak and hollow, held in position by a pin on a twig. A word sends me soaring through the clouds, the wrong tone can blow my temper through the roof.
On days like this, I reach for this sense memory, the feel of my mother's hand holding mine. A time when that meant I must reach upward.
Her sari brushes against my cheek, silky cool. In the midst of a crowded Bombay pavement, her hand and her sari are my little wading pool of calm. What goes on in her head, rushing between afer-work errands dragging me along by one hand, her bag of vegetables in the other? I know now she must have been tired from work, and thoughts of the dinner that must be cooked. There must have been stress from the workplace, something all too familiar to my grown up self.
With my hand anchored in hers above, and the street vendors hawking such delights, I couldn't have known of these thoughts, or even cared. Every time we shopped at this particular junction, she'd buy me one of these. A kaathadi- Pink and yellow, blue and red, scraps of paper twisted into pinwheels. There was always one, unconditionally. (Is kaathadi the wrong word? But it is so apt to the purpose, and so I use the word).
How does one weigh the memories of childhood one against the other, to decide which to use for a particular spell of happiness? Looking back now, I cannot explain why this one stirs me so. But when I need a charm against rainy gloom, within or without, I use this one.
Some days, I am still too shallow for wells of stillness within. I am still short enough that I must reach upward, outside myself, for calm. And when I feel like a scrap of paper whirled through breezes of words from others, I fall back into this.
The warmth of her hand, the feel of silk on my cheek. I reach for bright pinwheels of memory, twisted into joy by a breeze not of my making. Leaning back, sometimes I let myself fall, and hope to catch the wind and rise again.
