There are some things that are just so purely woman that NO man can ever do. Regardless of how much he cares- He may be the man that changed your diapers and held you when you puked, or he may be the guy friend you hung out at the college canteen with, or the person who wants to spend his life with you. None of those things matter at some points- they just don't get it.
Having gone through the fights and the explanations and the wiles it takes to get them to understand, I've come to the conclusion that its not worth it. It takes a woman to do some things, and that's the bottom line.
So thank god for girlfriends- the people I can wake up at 6 am on Sunday morning with the panicked phone call- "What was I thinking?! I'm not ready to get married!!", and get a suitably satisfying reaction. If that same phone call had been made to a guy, he would probably have rolled over and gone back to sleep, knowing that I would return to my senses in an hour or so. A girlfriend will talk you through it, sympathise and worry and agonise with you, until you both decide you were being silly and nothing's wrong.
Girlfriends to shop with- NO man, no matter how much he loves you, will spend four hours walking through a store with you, admiring things you have no intention or money to buy.
And most of all, the point was driven home by the long contradictory conversation I had with R last night- Swimsuits and holidays, and her stories about frustration with a two year old baby and flinging chairs at walls, which in some way was supposed to convince me that marriage and motherhood are wonderful, desirable things every single person in the world should get into.
To quote her," No really, it can be so frustrating. You spend your entire morning scrubbing the house and cooking up things so that your baby gets used to new foods and gets a balanced meal. Then she refuses to eat everything you cooked, and when she finally does, she pukes it all over the floor you scrubbed an hour ago. And you spend every single day like that, no breaks since S is working so hard right now he doesn't even take Sundays off."
And according to her, is the most beautiful thing in the world, worth giving up all your dreams of exotic vacations and high-flying careers for.
Huh ?! It probably takes a mother to understand that one.
3 comments:
Ok, first thing..Jo never paid me a dime to chime in with her words, so guys, if you happen to read this, forget the idea of bribery! About the motherhood part, I can't really comment at this point, except for that it is a desirable thing indeed. The way the shopping part works for me is, I take 2 hrs to choose a top(one of those 1 out of 10 times, when I seriously intend to buy it) and then finally when I try it out, I decide against it because it makes me look like an old fashioned dork on the fitting room mirror! Then I start all over again....but wait, I don't blame myself for that, not even if my "guy" feels sleepy, because thats the way shopping should be done! So Jo, hats off to you to put it so nicely...in short, you make girlfriends sound absolutely indispensable, not only because a guy would not understand why a call at 6 am on Sunday is important, but because they can turn over and sleep the rest of the day, knowing that his little "girl" is taking care of all the small "trifles" that make his life worth living!
Keep the good work up girl!
Of course they're indispensable!! Think of our Starbucks chats ;)
Sure...wouldnt like any of our guys to drop by during those times...just as no guy would like us to peep into their stag parties or bachelor nights..eh!
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